WHAT IS LOVE?
Living Journal Page. Will periodically update. (Also, don’t read into anything in this. It’s just my mind rambling.)
17 August 2021
I’m talking about romantic love today. The love people write about in movies and catchy songs that get stuck in your head for days on end, even the ones you hate, especially the ones you hate. The kind of love everyone is searching for their whole lives but seem to never know for sure if they have. Even married people, especially married people. Are the storybooks accurate that we have one True Love in life and if we miss them we lost our chance? Or do we have several True Love possibilities? Can we have 2 or 10 True Loves in a lifetime? Is there a limit? Are the movies accurate? Is True Love actually knowable a first sight? Can two souls meet each other on the subway, in the bread isle, in a pretentious coffee shop, on a college campus, sitting next to each other in bumper to bumper traffic and know in that singular moment that this human is their Soulmate or maybe just a potential Soulmate? Can we have more than one Soulmate? Can that recognition of a Soulmate happen to just one of them and not the other? Wouldn’t that mean they weren’t Soulmates? What are Soulmates? Are Soulmates and True Loves the same? Can one person be both? Is one better than the other? Is it that we have one true Soulmate and several True Loves or the other way around? Is it a True Love or a Soulmate if there wasn’t a cosmic shift in the universe upon meeting? Is that a requirement, or is it actually more reliable to be one or both without the fireworks? If it feels like a warm blanket in winter and not a blazing inferno? A cup of hot chocolate on a rainy day instead of the 4th of July fireworks show. Is it True Love or a Soulmate if it’s only one-sided? Or is that one side simply attached to a possibility? Can True Love exist where it’s impossible to act on, or is that something else entirely? Is the song right that sometimes love just ain’t enough or did one or both just not do their healing work throughly enough? Can you be in love 100% with more than one person at a time? Doesn’t that mean that neither are a True Love? Maybe one is a Soulmate and one is a True Love? If that’s possible can one be in love with 4 people at a time? 10? Is there a limit? What even is to be In Love? What does it look like? What does it feel like? Taste like? Smell like? Sound like? Can you be In Love with someone who is not a True Love or a Soulmate? Or is In Love simply attachment? With every partner I’ve ever had in my life there were moments where I felt like a volcano erupting for that person and there were times I felt like a lit tea light. Both felt comforting and alive. Is In Love simply feelings that are affected by it’s environment and not to be too preoccupied with? Or if one is with a True Love or Soulmate, it’s not necessarily about feelings and more about connection and knowing? How does any of this work with open relationships? Can one have a True Love or Soulmate but still need something from a 3rd party that the TL/S can’t provide because it’s not in their nature? Should we be looking for externally provided needs? Is a truly healed human complete in and of themselves and anything they get from a True Love/ Soulmate just decoration on an already iced cake? Is it fair to expect anyone else to ice our cake?
